If you are used to saying yes all the time, it is not easy to say no but no is an answer. No may not be an affirmative word but it does not connote outright negativity too. This is not forgetting that some negatives actually translate to positive. Example is HIV negative. There are more, if you do a quick scan.
Given a second opportunity, some things you hitherto said yes to will attract a no answer from you. Likewise, the no you said before could turn to a yes if you had more time to think through it before you gave your verdict.
Time has a role to play in decision making, depending on the weight of what your decision can birth and the possible implications. This is why you should be mindful of being stampeded to say yes to a request because you didn’t have enough time to process the information.
Not all matters are urgent and important. Some matters may be made to look urgent but if not important, tarry before you say yes when no is the right answer. Some matters are important but not urgent. Those ones need a bit of your time for your judgement to be from the heart.
No has its hidden benefits both to the sayer and to the receiver if you don’t allow emotions to dominate your ability to think deeper. The challenge most times is when we assume that only a yes answer is the right answer.
The quickest way to wear yourself out is when you attempt to please everybody else but yourself. You need to protect yourself from manipulative tendencies that make you feel guilty when saying no to someone else means saying yes to yourself.
©️Akin Oluwadare Jnr
08 April 2023
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